Stuck in a rut – still in love with your ex.

When you’re still in love with your ex, it’s hard to move on, if at all. How can you get your ex back? Was there any closure to your break up? Do you know exactly why the relationship ended and does this effort how you feel towards them at all?

Relationships tend to end for a reason and not just because you were having a bad day. There are some cases however where issues seemingly come out of nowhere and the next thing you know your lover has said goodbye and you’re left shocked and unable to move on. This usually happens because:

An underlying issue has been building up, as small as it may be, if not dealt with over long periods of time, they can make someone snap. It is likely they have been suppressing an annoyance or conflict of theirs until finally it has tipped them over the edge.

They didn’t know their relationship was lacking until they met someone else. It’s sad but true that sometimes you lose out because someone else came along. This doesn’t mean that other person is better than you. It does mean, the relationship wasn’t fulfilling a certain need and your ex saw it might be fulfilled by someone else. This is often an illusion and hence why 90% of rebound relationships don’t work out.

Sometimes it has nothing to do with what you did wrong or what you failed to do. An experience might have triggered something in your ex where they felt no longer satisfied with their life.

It is important you realize you were not any fault or wrong in their life. This is purely an internal dissatisfaction with themselves and they feel compelled to start over by leaving behind the things that once made sense to them. Sadly this can effort the people who love them the most, but at the end of the day if you want them to be truly happy, allow them to find out who they are and what they want. They may come back to you but for now, you need to learn to give them space.

How do you deal if you’re still in love with your ex?

It is important for you to tell your ex how you feel but there is a right way and a wrong way to do this. The right way ensures the best possible chance of them coming back to you and the wrong way might mean losing them forever. There is no need to make a mistake here but often people do because they simply have never been taught the ‘right’ way.